Inspiration

10 Warning Signs You’re Doing Too Much

Are you like me and burning the candle at both ends over-committed yourself to classes, a day job, writing, blogging, and other activities? Perhaps you or a loved one has had a sudden, unexpected health problem. Or you’ve simply gotten worn down by the day-to-day things that get under your skin.

Now you barely have the energy to get through the day. Or you’ve caught the current flu bug or cold and you can’t seem to get over it.  Your body and mind are screaming ENOUGH!

Don’t let get to the point that you feel like a pile of burnt matches.  Know the signs that the stress is getting too much.

Ten Warning Signs That You’re Working Too Hard:

  1. Your Productivity Declines – you put in more hours, yet get less and less done.
  2. You Don’t Have Time – for a favor, a commitment, a date with your friend or sweetheart, or even for your cherished indulgences.
  3. You Forget – to eat, an appointment, where you put that report or your keys.
  4. Things Are Out of Control – you’re always late; your normally neat desk is a mess; the dirty dishes are mutating in the sink; the stacks of bills or laundry (or both) are quickly becoming a mountain you can’t climb.
  5. Lack of Focus or Creativity – you flit from one task to the next, never finishing and never find a solution; you struggle to come up with new ideas, solutions to problems, or how to express an idea.
  6. Loss of Joy – you are beginning to dread tasks that normally you find enjoyable.
  7. Sleep Issues – you can’t sleep; can’t stay asleep; or you want to do nothing but sleep.
  8. Irritability – you snap at loved ones unjustly; you find yourself ‘just one more stupid driver’ short of total road rage.
  9. Health Issues – you have migraines or stomach problems on a daily basis; your acne, arthritis or asthma flares more frequently.
  10. Warnings from Friends and Family – you haven’t talked in weeks; your significant other tiptoes around the house afraid to disturb you; friends and family tell you you’re always busy, or they sit you down for an ‘intervention.’

You don’t want to know how up-close and personal I know all those warning signs. Really, you don’t. 🙂 But you do want to know what you can do when you recognize the warning signs in yourself.

Five Things to Do to Beat Stress:

1. Check Your Body

  • Are you fatigued despite getting 7 or 8 hours of sleep? Is your urine dark? The first sign of dehydration is fatigue. Be certain to drink plenty of water every day.
  • Is your resting heart rate up? Is your blood pressure up? If yes, be certain you get more sleep and more exercise. It’s not a matter of ‘when I can fit it in,’ it’s a matter of get it done or pay a price.

2. Re-prioritize – take a day to look at what you want to accomplish.

  • Look hard at your list. Are there some things that really don’t need to be done right now? Put them aside.
  • Is there some pieces of what you do that you can outsource? Hire a laundry lady or a housekeeper; have the secretary type up those letters; or you can ask family to help with tasks for a while.

3. Make a new plan. Break the task into smaller chunks that are more manageable. Make goals that allow you time to do the next four items on this list.

4. Schedule Fun – do something you love. Even just one hour a week can help. Take a walk, a swim, a jog. Meditate. Listen to music. Watch a movie. Read a book.

5, Take time off – An hour, a day, a week or more. Do something entirely different, at a different pace. Give yourself permission to breathe, to laugh, to do absolutely nothing.

Slowing down is not something I do willingly. I tend to be a bit (hubby chimes in with “majorly!) obsessive. I throw everything I’ve got into a project. I forget to sleep, to eat, to call friends and family. This is true not just of my writing or blogging, but of attention to my day job, household chores, whatever I want to ‘get done.’ I don’t seem to know how to pace myself. But, I’m learning.

If you push yourself too hard, something has got to give. Don’t be like me and let exhaustion make it impossible to work. Yes, there are times when an extra work load is needed. Just remember to listen: Listen to your body, your mind, your friends, and your family.

It’s nearing the end of summer and I’m hearing and reading that many people are feeling a bit overwhelmed. How about you?

Are you nearing Burn Out? Which of the steps above do you think you’ll find useful?

Have you pushed yourself too hard in the past? How did you recover?

Or have you learned to slow down?

Your readership means more to me than you can know. And when you take the time to leave a comment or two, I am thrilled and honored you’ve chosen to spend your valuable time with me.

Walking on Sunshine

I am “Walking on Sunshine” thanks to Pat O’Dea Rosen. Pat honored me with the Sunshine Blog Award. The Sunshine Blog Award is passed from bloggers to bloggers who ‘positively and creatively’ inspire others. Thank you so much Pat!

Let me tell you about Pat.  Pat writes women’s fiction and a wonderful blog called Writing, Reading, and Rambling on which she discusses, yup, you guessed it Writing and Reading and food and travel and other interesting things she ‘rambles’ about in the most fascinating way. Gateway Purse is one of my recent favorites from her. I can’t list all my favorites here, there are far too many. If you haven’t visited Pat’s site, I encourage you to do so. (And not just ’cause she honors me with this award – I am certain you will find delightful posts all over her blog.)

Here’s the award:Lynette M Burrows, science fiction author; Lynette M. Burrows action-suspense science fiction; Lynette M. Burrows, author

Here are the rules:

  • Include the award’s logo (and rules) in a post on your blog. Simply cut and paste the photo at the top left into your own blog post. (*check*)
  • Link to the person who nominated you. (*check*)
  • Answer the ten questions below with your answers instead of mine. (*check*)
  • Pass the award on to a bunch of “Sunshine Inspiring” bloggers. (*check*)

Here are the questions:

Favorite Color:  Purple – I wear it, clothing and eye shadow, even my house is painted a shade of purple

Favorite Animal: depends, are we talking two-legged or four-legged? Hmm, I think I’ll stick to the four-legged variety: yorkshire terriers, miniature schnauzers, and horses are the top three.

Favorite Number: 2 (2 is better than 1, you know)

Favorite Non Alcoholic Drink: coffee

Favorite Alcoholic Drink: Tumbleweed (vanilla ice cream, Kahlua, Vodka, crème de Cacao and half & half) yummy!

Facebook or Twitter: Facebook

Passions: Writing, Reading, Dogs, Family, friends, music, stained glass, art, puzzles (crossword, soduku, jigsaw, etc), and whatever else new and different I can learn.

Prefer Getting or Giving Gifts: Giving

Favorite City: the next city I visit in my travels – really, I don’t think I’ve visited a city that I don’t like to visit.  

Favorite TV Show: This was harder than I expected. I watch a fair number of TV shows but very few are on the I-can’t-miss list. When I asked hubby which ones he thought was my favorite he listed these two, and he’s not wrong: Charmed (I know, I know) and Sherlock.

And now, for the best part of getting this award: I get to pass it on!  Here are my nominations for the Sunshine Award:

Karen Huber Karen swears a beagle taught her zen. She is a poet who writes beautiful inspirations teaching us to appreciate each moment. One of my many favorites was titled “Like Water Through Rock.”

Pauline Baird  In her bio, Pauline says she has had a hard time with reality from the get go. I’d say today, Pauline has one foot solidly placed in reality and the other in the fascinating science fiction, romantic suspense, and steampunk worlds of her stories. Not a bad place to be. Her blog, Taking the Scenic Route, is entertaining, thought provoking, and fun. She talks about everything from strange trees to the moon. Stop by and say hello to Pauline.

Children’s fiction author Lynn Kelley calls herself a goofball. I don’t know about that, but I do know she has a blog that is always fun. Her parenting plights and delights are oh so familiar to every parent. She’s warm, funny, fun, and a little unpredictable. You’ll like Lynn.

Coleen Patrick  writes teen fiction and has a blog that inspires me with nearly every post. She’s into crafts, what she calls doodling that’s more like art, and she’s an amazing photographer. Her photo essays are beautiful and touching. You won’t regret visiting her site.

You need to read Diana Beebe’s blog just because of its title: Mermaids Don’t Do Windows.  Diana’s blog relates her adventures with technology from a misbehaving dishwasher, to her love of a certain vehicle, to vacations, blogging and writing. There’a always something interesting to read.

Happy Sunshine Awards, to all of you. Thank you for all the wonderful posts you’ve written.

There’s one more thing I’d like to leave with you today. A bit of inspirational video shared with me by Larry Brooks at storyfix.com. Now, this video was written for athelets, but Larry shared it because he thought it was apropos for writers. I LOVED it.

What about you? Do you think the video relates to writing or creativity? Or do you think it’s sports and only sports?

Your comments make me walk on sunshine. Thank you!

Perfection, Failure and Inspiration

I had another post in mind for today, but Monday morning I read a friend’s blog post and I knew it was something I had to share. Colin Falconer suggested that every writer should watch the video called The Benefits of Failure. I say everyone should watch this video. For everyone has something, someplace in which they have felt the pain of failure. That pain has given failure a black mark. It’s something most of us avoid, but perhaps we shouldn’t.

Take a short break right now and visit Colin’s website, Looking for Mr Goodstory, read his post and watch the commencement speech called The Benefits of Failure . Go on, I’ll wait.

Interesting speech, yes? Now, no one is encouraging you to go out and deliberately fail. What Ms. Rollins suggests is that we shouldn’t be so afraid of failure that we don’t take risks.

If that Ms. Rollins’ speech hasn’t convinced you that failure can be a good thing, that failure is part of life, read KM Huber’s blog, The Way to Fall Apart. It’s a lovely post and reminds us all that falling apart is necessary for things to come together.

But failing and falling apart are scary. So we look for some way to make it come together. Aren’t we all guilty of sometimes avoiding the possibility of failure by trying to make everything perfect? And wouldn’t you know it, Seth Godin had something to say about Polishing Perfect.

Has this post made you uncomfortable? Talking about, thinking about, much less experiencing failure is uncomfortable. But remind yourself, failure is just one way that didn’t work. Dare to risk failure. You never know what you might discover.

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I’m risking failure with an epic rewrite of an imperfect novel that I can’t let go.

Do you avoid failure at all costs?
Or do you embrace the risk of failure?

Greek for a Day

What do you do when you want to travel abroad but can’t afford the time or expense?

If you want to go to Greece or learn about Greece for a work-in-progress (I wouldn’t know who was doing that). You go to a Greek Food Festival and become Greek for the day.

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Waiting in line while mouthwatering aromas waft through the air. . . . then the tasting begins!

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Flaming Saganaki Chees via Arnold Inuyaki on Flickr Commons

Flaming Cheese Saganaki (pronounced sah-ghah-NAH-kee). The term saganaki refers to the two-handled vessel in which appetizers are served. The cheese is pan-fried and at the last minute (often at the table) a Greek brandy or Ourzo is poured over the cheese and set aflame with a shout of “Opa!.” You can find the recipe here.

Want to know more about Greek food? You can find all you want to know about Greek food at Matt Barrett’s travel guides.

The boutique complete with souvenirs from Greece. Notice the ladies behind the counter in their festive attire.

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No Greek food festival is complete without dancing.

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Did You Know?

Greeks are notorious for late arrivals to events. In fact, when they observe someone arriving to an event on time they say “he is English.”

When something is incomprehensible to a an American we say, “It’s Greek to me.” But to the Greeks, “It’s Chinese to me.”

When a Greek exaggerates or hides the truth, he’s “pouring on the sauce.”

Shaping thumb and forefinger to a ring as in the American gesture meaning okay, is an obscene gesture to Greeks.

Many Greeks have a cactus plant near the entrance to their home. The spines or prickles of the cactus are thought to ward off the evil eye from the property.

You can find more information about Greek traditions and superstitions at the Faliraki Directory.

And the best information comes from conversations you have with the folks who remember these traditions and superstitions and a few stories about a yaya (grandmother).

While travel to the country is the best option when learning about another culture. And the internet can be a treasure trove of information.  There’s nothing quite like being almost there, at a local festival, tasting the food, listening to the music, and enjoying the stories.

Have you been Greek for a day? 

If not Greece, what country have you visited without leaving your national borders?