Have recent political events raised your blood pressure? Perhaps it’s a work/boss/co-worker situation that sends you into the stratosphere. Family members know exactly which buttons will send you on the rampage. It can be exhausting. Don’t try to fight your way out. Find your inner peace.
What is Inner Peace?
It is a state of being. A state of freedom from emotional and mental stress. It’s an acceptance of the moment you are in right now. We all have the ability to be at peace, yet often we ignore or forget that ability in the hustle and bustle of daily life.
There are many, techniques for finding your inner peace. The study of zen, meditation, yoga, some do it by prayer. Choose the method that works best for you. But those techniques won’t bring inner peace if you haven’t done the work.
To achieve inner peace you must be intentional.
Know Your Self
Do you know what your core values are? Are you living a life that supports them? If not, why not?
What pushes your buttons, rattles your cage, or sets you off? Ask yourself why do I feel (mad, sad, hurt) about that until you get a truthful answer. (Hint: it’s usually not the first answer.) Then address that issue.
Once you’ve answered these questions and addressed those issues, you’ll find the button-pushers don’t set you off as easily, if at all. You’ll discover that you feel clearer and more intentional in all that you do.
This isn’t a once and done type of thing. As we learn and grow, you may refine your core values. You may address one set of things and discover a new hot button. Reassess as often as you need to.
Turn off the Adrenaline
Our society is hooked on adrenaline. Everything must happen quick-quick-quick. Every problem must be met with bigger-than-life emotion. But that adrenaline lifestyle is detrimental to your health. (See this Mayo Clinic article on chronic stress )
Give yourself permission to step away, slow down and rest. If you can’t take a day away from your responsibilities, take a break for five minutes a day for three days. Then, the next three days try ten minutes. Break out of the habit of all-day stress.
The need to control everything is a product of fear and distrust. Trust yourself. You are strong and resilient. You know what you need. Let go of controlling things and listen to the inner you.
Let go of perfect. You know that isn’t life. Life is imperfect. It’s about change and growth.
And in life, no one is always right. Let go of the need to be right. The need to be right is a defense mechanism. It’s okay to be wrong sometimes. Learn from your mistakes. Work on open-mindedness, empathy, and humility.
There will always be obstacles in your life. From politicians making choices you vehemently dislike, to that one family member who will never pick up their things, to not having enough time or money to do what is necessary or desired. You can’t wait for a time of no obstacles to find your inner peace.
Your behavior is always your choice. Choose how you want to behave. Don’t let a knee-jerk response control you.
When you give your self-control over to anger or hurt, you give your obstacle power. Don’t give your obstacles all the power.
Find your inner peace, choose your behavior consciously. Speak and act with intention.
Acceptance does not mean that you accept what is a terrible situation. It means accepting yourself. Know that the only person you can change is yourself. Recognize that there are many things outside of your control. All you control is yourself.
Find Your Inner Peace
All around you can be chaos but you can maintain your inner peace. It takes a little work but you can do it.
Surround yourself with things and people that support your core values. Unplug from the chaos. Free yourself from the need to control, the need to be perfect, and the need to be right. Make intentional choices in your actions and speech. Accept yourself. It won’t be perfect, but you will find your inner peace. And from that place of inner peace and intention, you will have power over any obstacle you face.