Use Your Kind Voice When You Need One

Are you at the point where all you see around you is thanklessness, faultfinding, and anger? A lot of us are. Perhaps it’s time to take a deep breath and check in on ourselves. So many stressors in the world, in the news, in our daily lives, many of us have forgotten to be compassionate to ourselves. Do you use your kind voice when you need one? Stop Black & White Thinking Many of us look at our day, our less-than-perfect accomplishments, our didn’t get it done list, and our emotions in black and white terms. We pronounce ourselves and our accomplishments as good or bad, positive or negative, and as a success or a failure. If we experience sadness, disappointment, or other so-called negative emotions, we berate ourselves for not being more positive. Or worse, for being a bad person. We judge ourselves and find ourselves imperfect. Don’t judge, get curious. Don’t ignore or deny your feelings. Look at the moment, at what those uncomfortable emotions you’re experiencing. Realize they are normal. Consider what those emotions are trying to tell you. Only dead people never get stressed, never get broken hearts, never experience the disappointment that comes with failure. Susan […]

Be True to Yourself

Watching the Disney live-action movie Mulan, I am struck with the messages contained with in the story. The story is simplistic, as all legends are, but lovely. There are many messages, or themes, in the story. They emblazoned four on the sword, therefore those get focused on the most: Loyal, Brave, True, and Devotion to Family. Many viewers pick up on the additional themes around misogyny and gender equality, honor, and duty. A few even see her search for identity. But what resonates with me is that it’s a story that says to be true to yourself. The hardest thing to do is to be true to yourself, especially when everybody is watching. Dave Chappelle  She Doesn’t Fit In The story starts with a young Mulan whose antics cause problems for her and her family. An older Mulan’s mother helps her dress, does her hair, and her makeup. Transformed into a “normal” young woman, her mother and younger sister accompany her to the Matchmaker and disaster happens again. Mulan and her family despair that she’ll ever fit in. She Hides Her True Self The emperor calls for a son from each family in the village to join the army. With no […]

Build Your Motivation Toolbox

It’s Monday. You drag yourself out of bed and wish you didn’t have to go anywhere or do anything. And you beat yourself up for it You say, it’s only this part of my work that I hate. If I could afford to hire someone to do this part, I’d be golden. If it weren’t Monday, I’d be fine. I’m not motivated, so I must not have genuine talent. Well, if that were true, your problem isn’t Monday. Heck, it could be any day of the week. Where’s your motivation toolbox? Don’t have one? Start building your motivation toolbox today. Fill it with tools you can and will use may help you through so you can figure out what is holding you back. Creatives like you don’t have an HR department or a supervisor to guide you. Sometimes you don’t even have a paycheck to motivate you. You need to know how to motivate yourself. To know how to motivate yourself, you need to understand the psychology of motivation. Understanding the Types of Motivation The problem with understanding the types of motivation is that there are hundreds of types identified by various gurus on the internet. So let’s boil it down […]