Your Grade at the End of the Day

We’ve all had those days when no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get anything done. If you had to grade your success that day, what would you think? What would be your grade at the end of the day? Never Enough  Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. -Henry Ford Some days, particularly during the pandemic, you simply don’t have enough hours in the day to get everything done. You’re exhausted and frustrated and defeated. It’s too much. If you had to grade your performance, your grade at the end of the day would be a failing one. Sound familiar? Step back a moment. Let’s rethink that. Perfect or Victim Perhaps you’ve fallen victim to the perfect trap. Having high standards, lofty goals, and always wanting to do your best are splendid things. They can help you become and do the best you can. But perfectionism is a two-edge sword: a desire to do well and fear of the consequences of not doing well. According to Psychology Today, critical perfectionism manifests itself as inwardly focused perfectionists and outwardly focused perfectionists. Inwardly focused perfectionist beat themselves up for every mistake or failure. Outwardly focused perfectionists bully […]

What Flavor of Success Do You Want

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines success as “favorable or desired outcome.” That’s like trying to eat a large designer cake in one bite. There are as many interpretations of that as there are people on the planet. And there are traps within personal definitions of success—traps where you give the responsibility away to others. As a result, it’s hard to pin down what success means to you. If you don’t define success for yourself in a realistic way, you may inadvertently say no to success. Think of success in simpler terms. What flavor of success do you want? What does it look like? How do you measure success? Is success a book published, a book sold, a certain number of books sold, a certain amount of money earned? All the usual definitions may leave you unsatisfied. Why? Because most of those things are not in your control. What You Can’t Control You can’t control readers Not how many you get nor how they respond to your book. Even when you do mega-research on your genre, you have no control over a single reader.  You can’t control sales. Certain marketing maneuvers will increase the possibility of sales, but you cannot control the number of sales […]

Who Does Your Greatest Success Look Like?

Who does your greatest success look like? Is it someone who has accomplished things, fame, made lots of money? Or are there other criteria you use to measure success? It’s good to have goals for a day, a week, a month but what are your goals for your lifetime? Do you know who you want to be?  This is the question I’ve pondered recently. During my reflections, I decided to look at female authors who have attained a level of success. I started with the Best Novelists of All Time on Ranker then went to the Best Selling Fiction Authors list on Wikipedia. Best Female Novelists of All Time (adapted from Ranker) Virginia Wolfe, an English writer  Agatha Christie, DBE, an English novelist, short story writer, and playwright Jane Austen, an English novelist  George Eliot,  an English novelist, poet, journalist, translator Mary Shelley, an English novelist, short story writer, dramatist, essayist, biographer, and travel writer Charlotte Brontë, an English novelist and poet Flannery O’Connor, an American writer and essayist Daphne du Maurier, DBE, an English author and playwright J. K. Rowling, OBE FRSL, a British novelist Emily Brontë, an English novelist and poet  Margaret Atwood, CC OOnt FRSC is a […]