You Are Strong Enough

After all we’ve been through as individuals and a nation, we’re all tired. Even if we have hope, we’re stress fatigued. No matter how tired you are of all that’s happened. You are strong enough. Yes, we have months to go before we have a handle on the pandemic. Longer for economic and racial injustices to be corrected. Even longer to restore some sense of national unity. It’s exhausting. But we are strong. All of us—You are strong enough to get through this. Strength is one of those things you’re supposed to have. You don’t feel that you have it at the time you’re going through it. Joan Didion Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem. Virginia Satir Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength. Arnold Schwarzenegger Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength. Karamo Brown Strength and compassion are not mutually exclusive. Robert Kiyosaki Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have. Norman Vincent Peale But standing up to […]

Your Creativity is Born of Your Vulnerability

You’re at a cocktail party or talking to a new acquaintance. The response that person makes when they learn you are a creative, is someday I’m going to (insert your type of creativity) too. Most people never get around to it. Why? Because they are afraid to be vulnerable. But your creativity is born of your vulnerability. With apologies to Brené Brown, the only way to be creative is to go through your vulnerability. What is Vulnerability? Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines vulnerability as “capable of being physically or emotionally wounded.” In this case, you need to go deeper. To be vulnerable is to expose yourself to physical or emotional wounds from your past or present or future. And it means to expose yourself to failure and fear and shame. Vulnerability Sounds Scary It is scary. It’s the thing many of you avoid as much as you can. You numb yourselves so you won’t feel the fear, the pain, or the shame of not being enough. Some people numb themselves with drugs or alcohol or even food. Other people numb themselves with being too busy to be vulnerable. Some tell themselves that being vulnerable is weak, so they construct psychological and physical […]

Let it Go: an End of the Year Exercise

It’s the end of an excruciating year. Are you looking back and seeing only the awful things? I’d like to challenge you to let go of the awful. Try to let it go: an end of the year exercise. Embrace the positive. If You Made Mistakes I’m certain I wasn’t the only one who made mistakes in the past twelve months. Did you make mistakes? Though he’s talking about the year to come, look at what Neil Gaiman says below. I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes…you’re Doing Something. Neil Gaiman I challenge you to look at any mistakes you made with a new attitude. You were doing something. So what did you want to achieve? What did you learn from your mistake? Can you take that lesson forward into the new year? Don’t Look for Flaws We humans have a quirk. We focus on the negative. According to research reported by Psychology Today, the human brain is hard-wired to look for danger. Once it was a necessary survival skill. But today, we have a choice. The past year has been one challenge after another. We made it a meme […]