Are You Failing the Altruism Test?

Our world is suffering. These unsettling times of pandemic, racial inequities, economic upheaval, and political lies and manipulations sweep through and relentlessly causes death and destruction. People respond to each problem as if it’s a hoax, or the acts of madmen and mass murderers, or as if it’s the end of the world. It is an apocalypse of sorts. Or perhaps more accurately, it’s a test. Sadly, we are failing the altruism test. Not all of us, but many of us. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. –Leo Buscaglia What is Altruism  According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, there are two definitions. Most people, it seems like they’ve only got one part of the equation down. Caring for themselves, or caring for someone else. And I’ve learned how important it is to have both. – Deb Caletti There are people who exhibit extraordinary acts of altruism. Heroic acts that many of us both admire and cannot see ourselves doing. The Study of Extreme Altruism Abigail Marsh is a psychologist, neuroscientist, and […]

15 Inspirational Quotes for Tough Times

Pandemic life is tough. Add on inequality, unemployment, and the steady erosion of a lifetime of saving it’s difficult. Now add on the ordinary difficulties of life: chronic illnesses, family stresses, and home and vehicle maintenance—it’s a lot. Anxiety is high. High enough that sometimes innocent words blow up into something else. But mankind has been through a lot. You’ll get through this, too. Here are some inspirational quotes for tough times to remind you that you can do this. On Being Tough Tough times never last, but tough people do. – Robert Schuller The bravest sight in the world is to see a great man struggling against adversity.  —Seneca In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive. – Lee Iacocca On Ways to Think Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.  – Marcus Aurelius You don’t have to control your thoughts; you just have to stop letting them control you.  – Dan Millman If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. –Mary Engelbreit […]

Hope for that Helpless Feeling

Are you in a hard place right now? Feel like you’re stuck? Helpless and Hopeless? There is hope for that helpless feeling. Don’t Diminish Your Feelings You know you’re not alone. And in your heart of hearts, you believe your hard place isn’t anywhere near as hard as those of people of color or police officers or medical workers or even some grocery store clerks. And that’s part of the problem. Other people having hard times in their lives doesn’t negate your troubles. Your troubles still disrupt your life. Cause you pain. Troubles in trying to write or not being able to go to the movie theater or being unable to visit your loved ones are painful. But they aren’t really the problem. You focus on a smaller problem. Because you feel helpless. You cannot cure COVID or right the wrongs of racial inequality. And you cannot heal the rage and the hate and the hurt of the world. You wish you could. And when you realize you’re not in a position to help, You feel impotent. Helpless. Paralyzed. Trauma Trauma affects you mentally and physically. You say, wait—I’ve not experienced the trauma—I’ve just watched it on television, YouTube, Twitter, […]