Creativity and You Don’t Have to be Perfect

Are you paralyzed by the idea of using your creativity? At some point, everyone is…the blank page, the first stroke of the brush, the first cut of the paper, the first taste…afraid. Maybe you’re afraid to start. Could be you’re afraid to finish. Take a deep breath and remember, creativity, and you don’t have to be perfect. It’s about more than creating a perfect product, to paraphrase a Miley Cyrus song, it’s about the ride. Perfectionism Leads to Poor Self-Esteem “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: “If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” Brene Brown Fear drives a perfectionist by the fear of shame and judgment and blame. Yet, it’s a self-fulling destiny. Perfect is unattainable. So when you cannot reach perfection, you berate yourself before someone else can. Shaming yourself is easy. See, I knew I couldn’t do it.  I knew it; I don’t deserve this. Look at how bad that looks. Why did I ever think I could do this? I can’t do anything. Self-shaming is contagious. Once we start, we find fault in everything […]

You Can Be Resilient

“Resilience is the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress.” (from Merriam-Webster Dictionary.) We’ve all been under compressive stress. COVID-19, political tensions and upheaval, racial tensions, economic and personal issues have created a pressure cooker that will not go away with a wave of a hand on January 20th or any other date. So you need to know how to be resilient. When you feel you’ve been stretched to the breaking point, you have to bend with the wind, be resilient. What Resilience Isn’t Being resilient doesn’t mean you won’t have stress or trauma or emotional pain.  It’s not something you’re born with or that you lack due to genes.  And it’s not something only certain people can have.  What Resilience Is Resilience is like a muscle. It must be exercised, practiced. It takes time and intention. But it can and will get stronger. Psychology Today says there are factors that can help make you more resilient. A positive attitude, the ability to regulate your emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback allow you to adapt, to be resilient.  And according to the […]

Labor Day Inspirations and Information

It’s a U.S. holiday called Labor Day created to honor and recognize the American Labor Movement. And this is a short video (two and a half minutes) of Labor Day Inspirations and Information. The transcript is below TRANSCRIPT Though President Grover Cleveland declared Labor Day a national holiday in 1894, the occasion was first observed on Sept. 5, 1882, in New York City. Brendan I. Koerner Labor is the fabled magician’s wand, the philosophers stone, and the cap of good fortune. James Weldon Johnson. All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity. Martin Luther King, Jr. The First Labor Day Parade According to Ted Watt’s ‘The First Labor Day Parade,’ the September Read more at According to Ted Watt’s ‘The First Labor Day Parade,’ the September date was chosen because it coincided with a Knights of Labor conference in New York, thus guaranteeing a sizable turnout for the festivities. Brendan I. Koerner Labor Day is devoted to no man, living or dead, to no sect, race or nation.      Samuel Gompers Without labor nothing prospers. Sophocles An Official Holiday In 1887, Oregon became the first state to make Labor Day an official holiday, with Colorado, Massachusetts, New Jersey, and New York quickly […]