To Not-Mothers and Not-Standard Mothers

Yesterday was Mother’s Day. It’s good to celebrate Mothers. Mothers do a lot that is often unpleasant, unrecognized, and unrewarded. And yet… Mother’s Day is woefully narrow-minded. There are many mothers that don’t fit the “mold.” There are foster mothers, step-mothers, males who mother, mentors, friends, sisters. And then there are the not-mothers. The single women who want to be a mother but aren’t, the single women who choose not to be a mother, the women who cannot carry a pregnancy to term, or those mothers whose children have died untimely deaths. To not-mothers and not-standard mothers, I offer some reminders. “Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.” Maya Angelou Strong back.  Soft front. Wild heart. Just be you. Brene Brown “Encourage yourself, believe in yourself, and love yourself. Never doubt who you are.” Stephanie Lahart I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself. Emma Stone “There is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind.” Virginia Woolf The great courageous act that we must all do, is to have the courage to step out of our history and past so that we […]

Check Your Core Values

Every decision you make is colored by your core values whether you know it or not. Do you know what the phrase means? Do you know what your core values are? How do they line up with the core values of your workplace? Your school? Your significant other? Your nation? It is important that you know these things. We live in troubled times. Every nation seems to be facing political, financial, and/or social challenges. We are besieged with political bickering, name calling, fake news, faulty products, shoddy services, abuses, and mass shootings. We have endless arguments over the best way to solve ‘our problems.’ Yet, we can’t agree on what ‘our problems’ are. What has happened to us? We’ve lost our core values. Too many people are acting out of their emotion of the moment. They never stop to consider if their actions reflect their core values. Perhaps they don’t know what their core values are. When you act in a way that is incongruous with your core values you feel unvalued and unfulfilled. And out of those feelings come more emotions—depression, resentment, anger, etc—and those are acted upon. It’s time to stop and think. It’s time to remember what […]

17 Celebrations during the final week of December

It’s the end of December but not the end of the holidays, feasts, and celebrations. December 24 Christmas Eve The evening or the entire day before Christmas is a time of many traditions and celebrations.  Many attend a special midnight service commemorating the birth of Jesus Christ. Some fast this day and feast after the midnight service. Others exchange gifts on this day. In many countries, the Christmas tree is brought into the house and decorated on this day. It is also traditionally the day the Yule log was lit. See more about the Yule log here Learn more about the customs across the globe here. In my home, we take time to listen to Christmas carols, nibble on some treats, read, and enjoy each other’s company.   December 25 Christmas Day  This is one of my favorite holidays. It commemorates the birth of Jesus Christ, son of God. Linus from Charlie Brown’s Christmas sums this event up very nicely. Anastasia of Sirmium Feast Day  Anastasia was a matron of a noble Roman family married to a pagan. Little is known about Anastasia. She was martyred in 284-305 when despite decrees from Diocletian, emperor of Rome, she stood up for her […]