Did you make resolutions this year? Or, after reading that so many resolutions go unfulfilled, did you not make any resolutions? Perhaps, there’s a different way to think about it. A way to take an intentional step toward a goal or desire.
Perhaps, instead of resolutions you set Intentions. Thanks to Orna Ross for that term. (See Orna’s explanation of Creative Intentions.) Her Creative Intentions are directed toward people striving toward creative endeavors but I believe anyone can use intentions instead of resolutions.
Intentions are positive and nonjudgmental. If you say it is my intention to lose twenty pounds. The goal is there but you’re also recognizing that it’s a process. There will be times of forward progress, slow progress, and perhaps no progress and backward progress. But if it’s your intention to do something and you have no progress, you have not failed. It’s still your intention. Perhaps you need to re-think the steps it takes to get there.
Setting your goals high doesn’t mean aim for the impossible. It means stretch yourself. And keep stretching yourself and you will reach farther than you thought you could reach.
Life, especially creative life, is not a race. As Confucius says, “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” In other words, your steps can be slow with long rests between each step. It does not matter how slowly you go.
Comparing yourself or your progress to anyone else is comparing apples to hedgehogs.
Look in the mirror. Unless you’re an identical twin, no one else looks like you. No one has lived your life except you. Your path is unique to you. You know things, unique to you. Value your unique path by putting your foot forward each and every inch of the way.
To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.
Don’t fight it. Don’t weigh yourself down with judgment.
Have trouble sticking to resolutions? Try following Orna’s Creative Intentions path. Write your intentions down. Share your intentions below. I’d love to hear them.
Take your first intentional step into the new year. You can do it. I know you can.