Hope for that Helpless Feeling

Are you in a hard place right now? Feel like you’re stuck? Helpless and Hopeless? There is hope for that helpless feeling. Don’t Diminish Your Feelings You know you’re not alone. And in your heart of hearts, you believe your hard place isn’t anywhere near as hard as those of people of color or police officers or medical workers or even some grocery store clerks. And that’s part of the problem. Other people having hard times in their lives doesn’t negate your troubles. Your troubles still disrupt your life. Cause you pain. Troubles in trying to write or not being able to go to the movie theater or being unable to visit your loved ones are painful. But they aren’t really the problem. You focus on a smaller problem. Because you feel helpless. You cannot cure COVID or right the wrongs of racial inequality. And you cannot heal the rage and the hate and the hurt of the world. You wish you could. And when you realize you’re not in a position to help, You feel impotent. Helpless. Paralyzed. Trauma Trauma affects you mentally and physically. You say, wait—I’ve not experienced the trauma—I’ve just watched it on television, YouTube, Twitter, […]

Worldwide Crises Got You Down?

Worldwide crises got you down? As if the pandemic, protests, and political shenanigans aren’t enough, now we have more killing and natural disasters. It’s a lot. The worst part is that none of it is over. And it won’t be for a while. So in case you need a reminder of how strong and awesome you are, here are a dozen quotes to help you hold on. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.– Ralph Waldo Emerson Courage Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” – Mary Anne Radmacher You are Braver than you believe, Stronger than you seem, and Smarter than you think. ― A. A. Milne Christopher Robin Courage isn’t having the strength to go on—it is going on when you don’t have strength. – Napoleon Bonaparte Strength Anyone can hide. Facing up to things, working through them, that’s what makes you strong. – Sarah Dessen Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, […]

Do You Need to Get Away From It All?

Current events have you tied up in knots? Feel like you need to get away from it all?  You deserve a Calgon™ moment If you’re as old as I am, you may remember the old “Calgon™, take me away” commercials on television. Calgon™ is an American brand of water softener, and bath and beauty products. The commercials started in the 80s and features—well watch and see… Recognize Your Stress Levels The point is, you’ve been under a bunch of stress. Unusual amounts of stress. And the stress is ongoing. Fortunately I have a few posts that may help you. But first what kind of stress are you experiencing? You may be experiencing physical, emotional, cognitive, or behavioral signs of stress. Learn to recognize your stress levels. Make a Safe Place No matter what level of stress you’re feeling, you need to be able to continue to function. If you feel like you’re in a safe place you can keep up with most of the things you need to do. This next post discusses how to make a safe place in your mind. Perhaps that’s a little too woo-woo for you. You may find my post, 6 ways to Find Your […]