Look Hate in the Face and Love

As a writer, I try to write truthfully. Not the Truth, but a truth. Each of us carries the Truth and a truth our entire lives. The Truth, in my mind, is something factual or scientific. A truth is the real experience of an individual. Perception plays a large part in a truth but that does not negate it. So as a writer, I research people who hate so I can write their truth. And in doing that, I discover I must look hate in the face and love that character. When I look deeper? I must look hate in the face and love. Period. Truth or Fact In philosophy, what I call Truth with a capital T is Fact. The use truth and fact as synonymous is misleading. Facts are inarguable. Fire is hot. It is a fact that fire is hot. My perception is also that fire is hot. But I also say my coffee is hot. This is partially fact and partially perception. If I spilled my freshly made coffee onto my hand, it would scald me. Therefore, my coffee is hot is a fact. But I like my coffee with a little cream and I wait […]

Thank You for Celebrating With Me

Thank you for celebrating with me. Your tweets and retweets and shares of my One Year Anniversary and Giveaway were awesome.  It’s Not Hard, But It Is Writing novels is not physically difficult. Some days it’s emotionally draining. Other days, it might be hard on the backside. And some days it’s a slog. But I find tremendous rewards in putting the words on paper (or screen).  Why I Write I write because books inspired me, gave me hope, and gave me dreams when I needed them. Repaying that debt by paying it forward to other readers is important to me. I didn’t expect how indebted I would be to readers.  Gratitude is when memory is stored in the heart and not in the mind. ~Lionel Hampton You have given me many memories stored in my heart. Readers and comments here on this blog, fill my heart with gratitude. I am grateful for every review of my books. And sales mean more than money. I feel a bit like Sally Field gushing at the Oscars, “You like me. You really like me.” Every sale, every review, every comment, every website page viewed fills me with an awareness of how blessed I am to […]

How to Care for Yourself during Difficult Times

Work, life, school, economic, social, political, and environmental disasters and stressors are everywhere these days. Today’s society bathes in stressful events every day. It’s enough to make you want to crawl in a hole and pull the dirt up over yourself. (See “Does the News Make you  Disheartened and Afraid“). But if you hide, you will never achieve your dreams. So what to do? Develop a personal ritual to care for yourself during difficult times.  What’s a Personal Ritual? The word ritual has a lot of baggage. According to Merriam Webster, the word ritual means: 1. of or relating to rites or a ritual: CEREMONIAL a ritual dance 2. according to religious law ritual purity 3. done in accordance with social custom or normal protocol ritual handshakes ritual background checks Merriam-Webster The personal ritual is a “normal protocol” or a routine. You have many already.  What’s the thing you do every day when you first get up? That’s a ritual. Perhaps you wear a “lucky” t-shirt to your favorite ball game or you cross your fingers before saying something. Those are also rituals.  Are Rituals Effective? Different rituals work for different reasons and the reasons may not be what you think. npr.org The ancient Egyptians’ ritual […]