Do You Need a Distraction?

I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to step back from 24 hour roller coaster of Corona Virus News. Not that I don’t understand the significance and the scale of this thing. But my brain and my emotions need a break. I need a distraction—Do you need a distraction too? Music? Learn? Read on. I’ve distractions a plenty. Up Beat Sing-Along Long time readers know I love music. It’s my go-to stress reliever. Here are four songs and lyrics that will lift your spirits. Belt it out. You’ll feel better. Que Sera Sera—Doris Day Uptown Funk—Bruno Mars Bob Marley – Don’t Worry, Be Happy Mary Poppins (1964) – “Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious”  Ear Worms Your family won’t let you sing out loud? Sic these ear worms on them. You’ll all be singing. Witch Doctor – Ooh Eeh Ooh Ah Aah Ting Tang Walla Walla Bing—David Seville Call me Maybe—Carly Rae Jepsen Living La Vida Loca—Ricky Martin Shake It Off—Taylor Swift Banana Boat Song–Harry Bellefonte Parody For those of you who want to laugh at the Corona virus, here are four parodies that I thought you might enjoy. Do Not Go (“Let It Go” Corona Parody) Hands washing Hands — Neil Diamond Put […]

6 Ways to Find Your Calm in the Middle of the Storm

It’s a topsy-turvy world we’re living in right now. Even an introvert like me, used to sitting alone at the computer all day, can get caught up in the craziness. It’s essential, now more than ever, that you find your calm in the middle of the storm. Ack! How do you do that when everyone around you is losing their minds? Smile First, smile. Fake it if you must. Look in the mirror and smile. Make faces. Be goofy.  Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. —Thich Nhat Hanh There’s science behind this. And I’ve written a series of blog posts about stress and how you can manage it. The act of smiling activates those neurotransmitters that make you feel good. It relaxes your body, slows your heart, and lowers your blood pressure. Not only that, it makes you more attractive. And it’s contagious. Re-Evaluate You’ve got to change your life for your health and the health of everyone around you. So take this time and re-evaluate your priorities. Figure out what means the most to you. What brings you the most happiness and joy? Is it your […]

Lost and Found Memories of Trauma

How, why, and where we store memories are complex processes only partially understood. We briefly discussed the types and stages of memory, what normal forgetting is, the types of amnesias and how tv and books get it wrong , and the most feared type of forgetting—dementias . But there’s another type of forgetting we have not yet discussed. The complex issue of lost and found memories of trauma, better known as repressed memories or recovered memories, has been fraught with bitter controversy. Relatively recent research and discoveries shed some light on what happens. Trigger Warning: This article does not go into descriptions, but topics discussed include abuse, sexual abuse, childhood traumas and childhood sexual abuse. If those are trigger issues for you, give this article a pass. The Definition Although courts and legislatures use the term repressed memory, the proper term is dissociative amnesia. This is the definition that appears in the DSM-IV, section 300.12: “Dissociative amnesia is characterized by an inability to recall important personal information, usually of a traumatic or stressful nature, that is too extensive to be explained by ordinary forgetfulness.” Alan W. Scheflin Psychiatric Times Repressed Memory vs False Memory Since the late 1980s there have been huge questions and bitter debate […]