You Are Strong Enough

After all we’ve been through as individuals and a nation, we’re all tired. Even if we have hope, we’re stress fatigued. No matter how tired you are of all that’s happened. You are strong enough. Yes, we have months to go before we have a handle on the pandemic. Longer for economic and racial injustices to be corrected. Even longer to restore some sense of national unity. It’s exhausting. But we are strong. All of us—You are strong enough to get through this. Strength is one of those things you’re supposed to have. You don’t feel that you have it at the time you’re going through it. Joan Didion Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem. Virginia Satir Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength. Arnold Schwarzenegger Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength. Karamo Brown Strength and compassion are not mutually exclusive. Robert Kiyosaki Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have. Norman Vincent Peale But standing up to […]

Will You Make It Fun?

Recently, I read a post about how constructive criticism can be destructive. In my experience, I know this to be true. I’m sure you’ve had the same experience. So why do you (I’m including me in this) continue to be your own worst enemies? Why are you your harshest judge? To fight your way free of the mental blocks (writer’s block for those doing nanowrimo). You know the ones that say housework is drudgery or the day job is soul sucking. Or something many of us are saying, 2020 is the worst year ever. It is, but… By telling yourselves over and over and over how bad things are, you reinforce the feelings that only bad things happen. For your sanity, you have to get past that. How? By having fun? What’s that you say? How can you make it fun when things are so bad?  If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun. Katharine Hepburn Unstructured Play Ms. Hepburn may have been talking about rules of acting or laws or life. But here, we’re talking about having fun, unstructured play. A playful attitude and a little bending of the rules that allows all sides to have […]

You Don’t Have to Be Anne Frank

Entering the second month of social distancing seems like we’re all getting a little cranky. If you’re like me, you’ve put on a stiff upper lip and soldiered on. You limit your complaints to your frustration at not being able to go to the store or out to dinner. But you don’t admit to all the other emotions. Perhaps you have some idea of how someone in isolation should act. Perhaps, like me, you hold memories of Anne Frank up as a measuring stick for success. But you don’t have to be Anne Frank. Diary of A Young Girl I read the Diary of a Young Girl (AKA Diary of Anne Frank)  in high school and found it profoundly moving. A fourteen-year-old girl had to live in hiding for two years. She didn’t have a choice whether to hide or not. She didn’t have a prom or a graduation. And she didn’t have a choice with whom she hid. Cut off from friends and the life she knew, she documented her thoughts and dreams and frustrations in her diary. Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again. Anne Frank was young, only […]