In this Month of Love-Love Life

Has life got you down? Do you slog through the week then your weekend gets swallowed in should-do, must-do, and honey-do? Have you lost that loving feeling? In this month of love put the love back into your life—no silly, not that love. You can get through almost anything if you love life.  “Ah, but how do you rekindle such a love?  How do you love life? Connect with it again.  No one ever finds life worth living – one has to make it worth living. – Winston Churchill Make your life worth living by reconnecting with what you love. Touch with love— Touch someone you love. Run your fingers through the hair or skin or lips of your loved one. Feel the messages that touch sends to your body Listen with Love— Hear the tone of your loved one’s voice or laugh. Notice how your favorite music affects your pulse, your muscles, your attitude. Listen to the wind or to chimes or to laughter. Do you feel the lift that listening with love gives you? Try a Taste— Taste something you’ve eaten all your life and let yourself reconnect to it with memories or images. Savor a bite of your […]

In this Month of Love–Love Yourself

I was in a dark place. My marriage had failed. The separation and divorce tattered my son’s self-esteem. My writing had stalled and I had horrible nightmares. I was the most worthless person I knew (second only to my ex). Self-love was selfish, or so I thought. I wish someone had told child me, “love yourself.” It took years of therapy and self-examination to learn that self-love isn’t selfish. I was lucky. I could afford therapy and by the luck of the draw, I found some good therapists. Back then I had one thing going for me, I was determined. Determined to be the best mom I could be for my son, I knew I had to work on me. The Struggle It was a terrible struggle. Feelings of worthlessness, self-loathing, mistrust, and shame filled me with negativity. I hid most of those feelings from the people around me. That good old Puritan work ethic flowed through me. I plowed through the work day, the housework, and the Monday through Friday life stuff. Every other weekend my son went to his father’s house and I crumpled into a tearful, self-loathing mess. I feared I was going crazy. My therapist made […]

Overwhelmed by all the horrible violence--natural and human? In a World of Peril, Create.

In a World of Peril, Create

I had intended to blog about Halloween quotes and traditions this week, but the recent tragedies in the U.S. changed my mind. People are hurting and grieving and scared. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t celebrate Halloween. It means that many people are overwhelmed at this horrid turn of events. I’m overwhelmed. But there’s a way to beat back the overwhelming emotions. In a world of peril, create. Create love, create art, create a pie (pumpkin anyone?), create hope. LOVE Love is evident everywhere in this time of grief and fear. It was in the police officers who got shot trying to stop the violence. It’s in the grieving loved ones feel. Shared sorrow is borne out of love of your fellow man. Vowing to support those who are being persecuted, hunted, and harmed—is a form of love. This doesn’t mean don’t be angry. Hate what happened. Hate the fear and abuse and hatred. But if you choose to hate a single person or group of persons you are no different than the people who killed or tried to kill people they hate. Hate begets hate. Take comfort in the outpouring of love. Give love. Love the helpers, the grieving, the […]