Always Remember 9/11

Today is the eighteenth anniversary of the terrorist attacks of September 11th 2001. Always remember 9/11. Terrorists flew planes into the World Trade Center’s twin towers in New York City and into the Pentagon. A third plane crashed in Pennsylvania. Its passengers, aware of what had happened, fought back and sacrificed their lives.  First responders selflessly struggled against impossible odds to help survivors and evacuate those in danger. Many first responders lost their lives, too.  Thousands died that day. It was a day that changed America. Our sense of safety shattered. Our isolation from what happened overseas vanished. Time is Relentless Families were forever changed on that day. Witnesses near the Towers were also changed. Some have physical reminders—old injuries or chronic injuries from debris and dust.  Time has claimed some of those who watched the Towers crumple. For some eighteen years was a lifetime ago. They never saw that day. And unless the tragedies touched their families, they do not know or feel the solemness of the day.  Memory Fades The nation’s collective memory is fading.  Thousands died. It didn’t matter what color their skin, what religion they did or didn’t follow, or what their sexual preference was. They […]

In this Month of Love-Love Life

Has life got you down? Do you slog through the week then your weekend gets swallowed in should-do, must-do, and honey-do? Have you lost that loving feeling? In this month of love put the love back into your life—no silly, not that love. You can get through almost anything if you love life.  “Ah, but how do you rekindle such a love?  How do you love life? Connect with it again.  No one ever finds life worth living – one has to make it worth living. – Winston Churchill Make your life worth living by reconnecting with what you love. Touch with love— Touch someone you love. Run your fingers through the hair or skin or lips of your loved one. Feel the messages that touch sends to your body. Touch is a powerful connector, without it we feel unloved. Listen with Love— Hear the tone of your loved one’s voice or laugh. Notice how your favorite music affects your pulse, your muscles, your attitude. Listen to the wind or to chimes or to laughter. Do you feel the lift that listening with love gives you? Try a Taste— Taste something you’ve eaten all your life and let yourself reconnect to […]

In this Month of Love–Love Yourself

I was in a dark place. My marriage had failed. The separation and divorce tattered my son’s self-esteem. My writing had stalled and I had horrible nightmares. I was the most worthless person I knew (second only to my ex). Self-love was selfish, or so I thought. I wish someone had told child me, “love yourself.” It took years of therapy and self-examination to learn that self-love isn’t selfish. I was lucky. I could afford therapy and by the luck of the draw, I found some good therapists. Back then I had one thing going for me, I was determined. Determined to be the best mom I could be for my son, I knew I had to work on me. The Struggle It was a terrible struggle. Feelings of worthlessness, self-loathing, mistrust, and shame filled me with negativity. I hid most of those feelings from the people around me. That good old Puritan work ethic flowed through me. I plowed through the work day, the housework, and the Monday through Friday life stuff. Every other weekend my son went to his father’s house and I crumpled into a tearful, self-loathing mess. I feared I was going crazy. My therapist made […]